We get pregnant and receive a whole lot of information on how to take care of the baby and how to stimulate their motor and sensory skills as they grow up. We also get advice on how to get rid of the hiccups, increase the production of breast milk, and even teaching them how to read. But there are certain aspects of motherhood that nobody tells us that might be helpful and that I would like to warn you about before the baby arrives. Don’t say we didn’t warn you. Here are some helpful advice for new moms.
Everybody will have something to say: Everyone has a story (tragic most of the times) even those people who aren’t parents. A recommendation or theory about what kind of food to avoid. They even tell you how to behave and what kind of mother you should be. You’ll just need to learn how to filter what they say. Don’t feel guilty about it or let their opinion make you feel down. Keep in mind they’re trying to help you. Just nod along, take notes of what you find helpful and just let the negative stuff just pass by.
You’ll think no one does it better than you: Nobody, not even the father of your child seems to be fit to bathe the baby or babysit the kid just for a few hours. Just to let you know, that’s the biggest mistake we as moms can do. In a couple of weeks, you will be exhausted, and those extra pairs of hands will come in handy when you take a break and rest. It’s essential that you allow your kid to have a healthy relationship with dad, grandpas, and other caretakers. In the meantime, take a refreshing shower and go out with your couple.
No matter what, you’ll slip up: If I were asked to choose only one thing that I would’ve liked to know before being a mom, is that absolutely nothing will go as I plan. Having everything going perfectly as a goal will ruin the fun of the journey as a mom. In the eyes of everyone, you will make some mistakes as a parent. Be sure of one thing, everyone will live and learn the way they’re supposed to, either as kids or parents. And that implies making mistakes and being wrong from time to time.
Never, ever put yourself on the side: As nature tells us, we as moms focus all of our energy into our kids. That’s why we survive as a species. But also, thanks to this, we get more tired as the days pass. Not only physical but emotional. We want you to enjoy being a mom without losing sight of your personal essence. Keep thinking of what you love to eat, those friends that you can talk for hours with, and the family around you. Those plans are good for your soul and well-being. Taking care of yourself is the best thing you can do for your kids.
The road taken by your kids is not your road:As I’ve made and will make mistakes as a mom, my kids will make decisions on their own and they’ll succeed or fail as a part of the process. We don’t have control over that process, nor are we entirely responsible for their acts. Last advice, 8 years ago I would’ve loved to have clear that my kids aren’t mine, but that they belong to life itself.
Many other thoughts will tag along this list of advice for new moms that no one told us before becoming mothers. For now, let’s take these 5 tips and focus on what we feel about being a mom instead of what people tell us about motherhood.
If you have another tip, leave it in the comment section. We’d love to share it with other OC moms.
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